What is #FIERCE?
I’m glad you asked. It’s…. an idea. The idea that you can be you. That you can be completely and totally who you are, and be absolutely unapologetic about it. That you don’t have to be afraid. Of anything. I’m not talking about doing something stupid and sidestepping the consequences. I’m talking about learning how to swim when you’re 48 years old and laughing about it. And the laughing not being a defense mechanism for someone else’s benefit. I’m talking about not caring if someone else feels the need to judge you. Living without fear has got to be the best thing in the world. Even Superman was afraid. He was scared to death of Lois Lane. Lex Luthor was supposed to be Superman’s arch enemy, right? His nemesis. But he wasn’t afraid of Lex Luthor; he was afraid of Lois Lane. When I used to think strength I thought Superhero strength. Cuz I’m a guy. And the world has tried to teach us that to be a man you have to be big and strong. But when people talk about real strength, it’s always about a woman. It’s Maya Angelou and Helen Keller. It’s Susan B. Anthony and Oprah Winfrey. It’s Madeleine Albright and Margaret Thatcher. It’s definitely Harriet Tubman. When I think strength nowadays, it’s mental toughness. It’s Harriet Tubman on steroids, metaphorically speaking, of course. But it’s also Genghis Khan, without the brutality. It’s Martin Luther King. It’s Malcolm X. It’s Bill Clinton, and dare I say it, Dick Cheney, Ugh. These people didn’t know anything we don’t know. They just weren’t afraid to be who they were. They didn’t give a damn. They were and are #FIERCE. And that’s what this is. This is the journey to be the most #FIERCE superhero you ever dared to be. And it scares the hell out of me. And I’m finally embracing that fact. That it can scare you without being afraid. Norma Rae was #FIERCE. Even Sally Field was #FIERCE when she was amazed that “you really like me.” Being #FIERCE is having the cojones to be real and true to YOU! Ain’t no turnin’ back when you decide to be badass. About everything. About how and who you volunteer for and with. About loving your family strong. About not being too proud to step up first. About making a decision and not knowing if it was right. But also making a decision you know is right but definitely not easy, even though it may be simple. A decision like being healthy. Being healthy mentally, spiritually, and physically. Exercising and emphasizing all three of them. That kind of healthy can be a lot of things. For me, it means being disciplined enough to change. Tough stuff. Especially without someone to do it with. At the same time, it’s an intensely personal thing. I would’ve ever in a million years thought I’d be someone that would get up at 4:30 in the morning to be at the gym at 5:30. Well… at least be on the way to the gym at 5:30. No way could I have done it without my “gym friends.” People to help me along. Coax and cajole. Tease when I’m slacking. But by far the hardest thing has been trying to do is eat healthy. I have a major league sweet tooth. Love doughnuts and Mountain Dew. Having a little coffee with my sugar in the morning. I never liked vegetables. I was forty years old before I had my first salad. Forty-two when I had my first taste of greens. It was an event. Family took pictures and everything. Kind of embarrassing but funny at the same time. So… my mission is to be #FIERCE. Completely. Totally. Entirely. Unreservedly. Indubitably. Yes, like the Harry Connick song. We Are In Love. Been looking for a way to use that one for 20 years. See what I mean? Love yourself shamelessly #FIERCE. Come along for the ride. I could use the help.